There are big differences between men and women in their way of thinking. Failure to recognize and appreciate these differences can become a source of disappointment, frustration and tension in every relationship… and even the downfall of it!
We don’t have to blindly and grudgingly accept those dissimilarities merely as consequences of living with him/her. Relationships between men and women are not necessarily difficult. Problems simply arise when we expect or assume him/her think, feel or act the way we do.
No, it’s not because of men and women live in completely different realities. Rather, our lack of knowledge and understanding that makes the relationship seems so problematic. Indeed, it is possible to know and understand if we we are willing to learn. As the proverb says: “Knowledge is power”, that knowledge and understanding will empower us to use those differences as tools to make our lives happy and colorful! But before we go further, there is something that I have to remind you:
Although men and women think in different ways, neither of the way is better than the other. Both men and women can solve problems equally well. Only their approach and their process in solving the problems are often quiet different.
Below are the list of the differences between men and women in their way of thinking. Some might sounds funny, some others ridiculous to you, but there they are. That’s how our fellow of the opposite sex generally think.
Men are more extensive in using their left hemisphere of the brain.
Women, because they have four times as many brain cells connecting the right and left side of their brain, can use their right hemisphere of their brain more effectively than men.
That’s why men are tend to use logical approach more than women. To women, men often seemed “disconnected” from their own feelings. Women, on the other hand, because of their greater access to both sides of the brain, are more capable to put emotion and feelings in their approach to problem solving.
Although men and women think in different ways, neither of the way is better than the other. Men and women can solve problems equally well. In the way of thinking, the differences between men and women can be summarized with this: men think compartmentally and women think globally.
Men have enhanced ability to distant himself from the problem and minimize the complexity that exists. They consider and understand the problem one piece at a time and view elements as less interconnected and less dependent. This makes men prone to belittling the details hence fail to appreciate the subtleties that may be important to successful solution.
On the other hand, the way women think makes them more prone to be overwhelmed than their male counterparts. Women can think on more than one problem at one time. They even frequently prefer to solve problems through multiple activities at a time.
This explains why for many young girls, the conversations of young boys are quiet boring. In fact, young boys often express confusion if they are in a conversation with other 6 girls who are discussing as many as four subjects at once!
The differences between men and women can also be seen in the way men and women approach problems.
Compared to women, men are more single-minded and focused.
Women on the other hand, are multi-minded and integrated. In problem identification, men tend to strip away all the muddying details (as they perceive them) and focus on the main problem. Or, if possible, try to divide the problem into smaller ones, solving one at a time.
Women do the opposite: they try to understand the whole big picture with all the complexities. Because, in their perception, most things are complex, not simple.
For women, we can not understand the big picture without all the context and the details. But because of this, women are more easily overwhelmed than men.