Narcissism

Narcissism And Other Personality Disorders

Narcissism

Are all personality disorders the outcome of frustrated narcissism?

During our formative years (6 months to 6 years old), we are all narcissists. Primary Narcissism is a useful and critically important defense mechanism. As the infant separates from his mother and becomes an individual, it is likely to experience great apprehension, fear and pain. Narcissism shields the child from these negative emotions. By pretending to be omnipotent the toddler fends off the profound feelings of isolation, unease, pending doom and helplessness.

Well into early adolescence, the empathic support of parents, caregivers, role models, authority figures and peers is indispensable to the evolution of a stable sense of self-worth, self-esteem, and self-confidence. Traumas and abuse, smothering and doting and the constant breach of emerging boundaries yield the entrenchment of rigid adult narcissistic defenses.

Defining pathological narcissism

Secondary or pathological narcissism is a pattern of thinking and behaving in adolescence and adulthood, which involves infatuation and obsession with one’s self to the exclusion of others. It manifests in the chronic pursuit of personal gratification and attention (narcissistic supply), in social dominance and personal ambition, bragging, insensitivity to others, lack of empathy and/or excessive dependence on others to meet his/her responsibilities in daily living and thinking. Pathological narcissism is at the core of the narcissistic personality disorder.

What happens when such an individual faces disappointments, setbacks, failures, criticism and disillusionment?

They resolve these recurrent frustrations by developing personality disorders.

The Narcissistic Solution

The patient creates and projects an omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent False Self that largely replaces and represses the discredited and dilapidated True Self. He uses the False Self to garner narcissistic supply (attention, both positive and negative) and thus support his inflated fantasies.

Both the Narcissistic and the Schizotypal Personality Disorders belong here because both involve grandiose, fantastic and magical thinking. When the narcissistic solution fails we have the Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The Borderline patient’s awareness that the solution, that they had opted for, is “not working”.

This generates in them an overwhelming separation anxiety (fear of abandonment), an identity disturbance, affective and emotional lability, suicidal ideation and suicidal action, chronic feelings of emptiness, rage attacks, and transient (stress related) paranoid ideation.

The Appropriation Solution

This solution involves the appropriation of someone else’s imagined self instead of one’s dysfunctional True Self. Such people live vicariously, through others and by proxy. Consider the Histrionic Personality Disorder. Histrionics sexualize and objectify others and then internalize (introject) them. Lacking an inner reality (True Self) they over-rate and over-emphasize their bodies.

Histrionics and other “appropriators” misjudge the intimacy of their faux relationships and the degree of commitment involved. They are easily suggestible and their senses of self and self-worth shift and fluctuate with input from the outside (narcissistic supply).

Another example of this type of solution is the Dependent Personality Disorder (codependents). Manipulative mothers who “sacrifice” their lives for their children, “drama queens” and people with factitious disorders (for instance, Munchausen Syndrome) also belong to this category.

The Schizoid Solution

Sometimes the emergence of the False Self is stunted or disrupted. The True Self remain immature and dysfunctional but it is not replaced by a functioning narcissistic defense mechanism. Such patients are mental zombies, trapped forever in the no-man’s land between infancy and adulthood.

They lack empathy, their psycho-sexual life is impoverished, they prefer to avoid contact with others and withdraw from the world. The Schizotypal Personality Disorder is a mixture of the narcissistic and the schizoid solutions. The Avoidant Personality Disorder is a close kin.

The Aggressive Destructive Solution

These people suffer from hypochondrias, depression, suicidal ideation, dysphoria, anhedonia, compulsions and obsessions and other expressions of internalized and transformed aggression directed at a self.

The self is perceived to be inadequate, guilty, disappointing and worthy of nothing but elimination. Many of the narcissistic elements are present in an exaggerated form. Lack of empathy becomes reckless disregard for others, irritability, deceitfulness and criminal violence.

Undulating self-esteem is transformed into impulsiveness and failure to plan ahead. The Antisocial Personality Disorder is a prime example of this solution, whose essence is: the total control of a False Self, without the mitigating presence of a shred of True Self.

Afterword

It is believable that malignant self love underlies all known personality disorders. Granted, different attributes and traits are emphasized in each personality disorder. But they all share the foundation of a failed personal psychological and psycho-social evolution. They are all the lamentable end results of stunted and compensatory trajectories of deformed growth and development.


 

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